Jay Smooth gets it right on. Now this is real metta (lovingkindness). As Sharon Salzberg says,
The practice of lovingkindness is, at a certain level, the fruition of all we work toward in our meditation. It relies on our ability to open continuously to the truth of our actual experience, not cutting off the painful parts, and not trying to pretend things are other than they are.
Unrelenting pressure to be positive is not real love or kindness, even if it’s coming from good intentions. It’s only when we let go of expectations for joy or peace that real, honest listening and caring can occur.
Take care, y’all, and I’ll see you Monday.
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